We tend to want to blame or praise, but life doesn't divide itself that neatly. You're going to be looking for someone to understand you, too.

...they [artists] all have a need that cannot be met by another human being. That's why the affairs, the one-night stands. It takes greatness of spirit to understand that the need is not meetable, and just to get on with life.

~L'Engle, Certain Women