what is it that creates a desire in us to be unique, special?
this yearning to stand out from the crowd, to be different and loved for just being us?
is it part of being human?
is it fallen wants?
“See, to him, there's only two women: your mother and everyone else” from Big Fish
“And you knew that, if only that person *really* knew you, they would, well, they would of course dump the perfect model that they were with, and realize that YOU were the one that they wanted to, just, grow old with.” from While You Were Sleeping
so if this desire is innate, what is the mature answer? b/c He loves us all the same...or does He? we are taught that but Rom 9.13 makes a distinction. but say He does, how do we let go of the desire to be special, different?
and the natural angst to be married, apparent in a clear majority of people, is partly the desire for one other person to love us more than anyone else in the world. and how do we let go of this if celibacy is our pathway?
thoughts?
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I am not sure that the desire to get married is directly tied to wanting to be unique...wanting to be loved, yes, but it is not strictly fallen desire or a selfish desire. We are told we were created for community and marriage is the deepest and most intimate community we can experience. In reality marriage is the closest we can get to understanding the Trinity because it is two people becomming one. SO, I really thing that the call to celebacy is a call to create that type of deep unity with Christ. I personally am not convinced that the desire for marriage ever goes away (even if celebacy is our path) but the only reason for pursuing that path is to build a deeper more intimate community with Christ and serve Him better or at least with fewer distractions. Don't know if that makes sense, but that is the best I can get to describing what has become a very complex view of marriage.
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